WE CAME AS ROMANS | SPECIAL EDITION | HOUSE OF BLUES | DALLAS, TX | SEPTEMBER 21, 2018
WE CAME FOR KYLE
This is a Special WCAR Show Review that I thought deserved it’s own post. I think it is also fair to say that I believe BAD OMENS and BULLET FOR MY VALENTINE need to get my undivided attention as I gave them my attention at the show last Friday. Keep on the lookout for this article link on the Cherri Bird Facebook page.
When a band announces plans to tour and I see the press release from their camp or their publicist, I feel like I’ve just received a personal “Save the Date” card for a graduation, engagement, marriage, baby shower or some wildly significant event. Especially when it’s a band that I adore. And if you’re not familiar with me and my odd musical tastes, you have to know one thing. I love and adore WE CAME AS ROMANS (WCAR).
You can imagine my surprise and excitement (and the squealing like a teenager coming out of The Bird’s Nest) when BAD OMENS, and WE CAME AS ROMANS announced this June that they were hitting the road with BULLET FOR MY VALENTINE (BFMV) this fall.
I was super-stoked as the days clicked by and September 21th got closer. Then, the unthinkable happened. On August 25th it was reported that KYLE PAVONE, clean vocalist and keyboard/synth for WE CAME AS ROMANS had passed away. For the Metalcore community, this was a blow right to the gut. After dropping their latest record Cold Like War in October 2017 and completing two successful tours with I PREVAIL and their own headlining tour in March of this year, it seemed impossible that this could happen to a band like WCAR. Impossible to think that the energy displayed by WCAR at one of their shows and gave every audience member so much joy, was missing from a member that served it up. That the way Cold Like War’s songs lifted fans and listeners up about dark and hurtful emotions, didn’t work on even the ones that wrote the music. It was impossible to think of the end of WCAR as a whole or a stage without KYLE on it.
Knowing how paralyzing the loss of a loved one or best friend that was like a member of your family was, I couldn’t even begin to think what the rest of the band was going through. I can say this, when you write music with people, what comes out comes from somewhere deep within. And this output not only helps heal the artists, but causes a connection with fans that creates a deeper connection with every listen. While you listen, while the music is played, a part of you passes away with them. And from personal experience, I can also say that it feels like on the surface it will never stop hurting or that it will never go away. Both of those fears are reality because it doesn’t ever stop hurting and it never goes away.
When DAVE STEPHENS announced that the band would perform on the BULLET FOR MY VALENTINE Tour, fans in the US let out just a tiny bit of the breath we were all holding in our lungs that month, waiting to hear what the band would do. And I think we all kept holding our breath because we just we were waiting to let it out with the band as we saw them on stage.
Personally, KYLE’S death was really f’ing hard for me for a variety of reasons. Cold Like War was played a gazillion times (and still is) from the time I got the pre-release. He sung the lyrics that stuck to me like insects to sticky tape hanging in the breeze during some really difficult times. My daughters, age ten and six, loved the band too. My youngest came to the venue they played at in Dallas to see the stage, the instruments, sound check, and even got to meet LOU, who gave her a guitar pic. I wish I would have kept her for the show now, so she could have seen KYLE with them, at least for a song or two.
I was, selfishly, glad that they were staying on the tour because I really wanted to see them and I wanted to support the band in any way I could. I also wanted to say goodbye to KYLE in my own way and internally with the band.
Friday the 21st of September arrived and the weather called for thunderstorms which held off until I made my way up to HOUSE OF BLUES entrance when the sky opened up and it felt like a bucket of water poured on my head. There’s no significance to the rain and this recount of that night. Maybe the 8 inches of rain Dallas received that night was in concert with the release from fans in letting as much as we could of KYLE go. Maybe the rain was symbolic to WCAR or will be in the future, that can be a sign that doing the tour was the downpour that washed them clean; not from KYLE or his memory, but in a way that gave them some peace.
Each band member was tethered by an invisible rope; the music WCAR played kept all five members from drifting or getting lost in their own thoughts. I almost did not want to photograph their set because I felt like I almost intruding in private moments that didn’t need to be shared with the public. But I continued for the sheer fact that what I wanted to capture in this performance wasn’t about the performance necessarily. What I realized when I got home and started developing the images, was that just like DAVE said it being ok to show sadness or pain, I wanted others to see it that didn’t go to the show or maybe didn’t know the band at all.
These images capture what I don’t want anyone to see while going through times of strife and trouble, pain, sadness, anger, and loss. We all think that we have to be perfect in the eyes of perfect strangers and even family and friends. That just by answering, “I’m fine.” when asked how we’re doing and we’re anything but fine is just courtesy for both people because surely they don’t care and I don’t care to tell them - or whatever deep seeded reason justifies our need to make it all seem like it’s all good. I want people to know that it’s ok to show that you’re not ok at times. And if these rising rockstars can show us and rise above, then so can we.
This set in Dallas was one of the best shows I’ve ever seen for the sheer fact that what was in front of us was real, raw, emotional, painful, joyous, and comforting. The heroes were DAVE, JOSHUA, ANDY, and LOU because they showed us, to our faces, what real life was as rockstars. And on some level, seeing that vulnerability and literal pain that I could see in all of them as they made it through the set, was cathartic.
I loved what DAVE said from the stage when he finally addressed the crowd after the first 3 or 4 songs, “Thank you for spending this with us, coming to the show. It is the hardest thing we’ve ever done as a band. But it has taught us that it’s ok to be sad, it’s ok to be sad and show it. We are all hurt and we miss him, but we are here to celebrate him. And it was hard for me, for us to think back and to not know that he felt alone and sad as bad as he did. But now we can say to you or anyone, ‘If you feel alone and need to talk, find someone, anyone.’ The KYLE PAVONE FOUNDATION was set up by his family and we support it so that the foundation can help others.”
I urge y’all not to be afraid to show your emotions or feelings. Our emotions - even the ugly ones - are what every human being experiences probably on a daily basis. Our emotions and feelings are valid and they are a part of us; stitched into our fabric that sometimes comes unravelled. Sometimes it’s too tight, or too baggy. Sometimes it is just right, and sometimes we’re mixing plaids and stripes, or wearing something made from this fabric inappropriately. But these emotions of ours are ours, they’re valid no matter how outlandish they might seem to others. Feeling alone because you can’t express how you feel shouldn’t happen because everyone, and I mean everyone has the same ones at different periods through their lives.
What happens with these emotions are where the confusion lies between actions and feelings. But feeling something and having emotions are totally yours to own and process. I think we’ve been so programmed to hide how we are really feeling, that somehow we’ve confused emotions with actions. Being sad or angry is not wrong, it’s not worth keeping inside to fester like a boil! It’s not worth keeping inside piling up on top of each other until you have to do something else to counteract the fullness that is inside.
I hope as you scroll through these images, you’ll see where life happens in the midst of pain and grief. You’ll also see where happiness lives in this same space too and that is the soil where hope and healing grows. And a special message for the band: I wish nothing but love you guys as you continue on this journey. And that being with your fans and doing what you love to do the most, helps heal your loss of the one who was there and still remains in the music. I hope readers will catch WE CAME AS ROMANS on tour with BULLET FOR MY VALENTINE and BAD OMENS this next month. Because you’re gonna get a killer show with a huge heap of humanity at its core...metalcore that is!
Look for MY BFMV SHOW SHOTS FROM THE GRAVITY Tour Here.
Til Next Time - MLMR - Cherri
The Opposite of Addiction is Connection: Please donate to the KYLE PAVONE FOUNDATION even if it’s $5. Honestly though, if every fan on the band’s Facebook page donated $1,the foundation would have over a million dollars and a great start in assisting with education, community involvement, and helping those that have lost a loved one to recover and regain strength from tragedy.
CLUTCH SHOW REVIEW
SEPTEMBER 2018
Man, core CLUTCH fans are f’ing serious about this band. Now, I am a fan in the definition of I love their music and have for a good 15 years or so but these core fans cannot be beat! I love to see how fans react not only to new music, but to live shows of their Most Favorite of Favorites. And I don’t know what it is about Dallas music fans, but those core fans of any band, seem to reside here.
Last night, these were the fans that came out to see CLUTCH at Gas Monkey Live along with TYLER BRANDT & THE SHAKEDOWN and SEVENDUST. At first glance, someone might think this billing was a bit odd. However, if you look a little deeper any fan can see the correlation that wafts between all three bands. All three of them are insanely talented, most would agree, right? But I’m focusing my attention on CLUTCH for this piece because, well, this four-piece has a mastery of music that supersedes most. If you’re looking for a complete review on all three bands, just head over to my Facebook page to find the Tour Review and where it was published because I really loved this tour and all of the performances I saw last night!
Alright, let’s get down to business with our buddies in CLUTCH. There’s no doubt that this band has one helluva reputation within rock as being one of the best American Rock Bands. As players, they’ve been individually recognized as well as collectively for the releases of the past eleven records. Book Of Bad Decisions might surpass the first eleven though, maybe. For me, it does because it brings an element in rock music back into the spotlight and I didn’t realize this until I saw the band live.
Coming on stage as the band fires up their instruments, NEIL FALLON walks up, snags his mic and griping it firmly in his fist he starts to sing. Moving from left to right, addressing the crowd like a barker selling bottled up miracles from the back of a wagon. Only, the audience doesn’t care really about the effects of the elixir, they just want to hear what NEIL has to say. They love how he says it and along with the backing from the band they listen intently to Gimme The Keys. Even though Book Of Bad Decisions has only been out since September 7th, everyone at least five rows back knew every word and sings along.
CLUTCH conjures the attention of the audience with TIM's thick and muddy guitar parts, the highly charged thump and peals of JEAN-PAUL’s drumming that are fused with the gurgling lows of DAN's bass, a foundation is created for the characters and storylines that reside in every song. American Rock used to be great at telling stories but has fallen short over the last couple of decades. Rock music seems to be poised at how an artist processes the content of a musician’s emotions or other what the other characters of a story have done instead of simply telling the story as a means of processing life experiences. Well, except CLUTCH. They are beasts at creating epic tales within the measures of their music and they have one of the best spinners of the proverbial yarn at the helm, NEIL FALLON.
"Book of Bad Decisions" just redefined the American Rock album not only with the music but with wildly vivid and alluring tales perfectly performed by a boisterous raconteur. NEIL is a master with persona in songs like Emily Dickinson and In Walks Barbarella, both songs were played last night, which made me extremely happy! They’re both great songs and the band performed them even better live!
© CherRi Bird Photography 2018
CLUTCH plays their set loud, and from start to finish including encores, play for well over an hour and fifteen minutes, keeping the audience engaged and connected. Focusing on their current record, they played several songs from Book of Bad Decisions with their staples intermixed. With relatively no blabber between songs is one of the reasons I love CLUTCH’S live show and I’m betting it is the reason other fans love the show too. Going to a rock show is where fans want to rock out. Speaking for myself, I want my ears to be full of music from the band and I don’t want to be subjected to unwarranted political opinions (I will however listen to them in a song though. Unless the song sucks and of course, then I’m not going to listen much at all).
As a part of the narrative in their songs, CLUTCH not only gives out just the right amount of information for the audience to draw their own visualizations about the characters NEIL is singing about, but live the various parts that make up the scenery for some of these tales is intensified and amplified.
And let’s be honest, if you come from or around my generation, going to a rock show now is quite different from how it used to be. In my twenties going to see a national band was about partying and letting loose because bands did not tour like they do now. Even before adulthood, signed bands would tour once a record cycle and that was it. And they wouldn’t put out a record every year, sometimes it was two or three years for that new record. It was an event that you bought tickets months in advance for, you even camped outside for a place in line to buy those tickets. Concerts were almost like festivals because they didn’t happen that often. And when you were at these concerts, the feelings were that much stronger, people were amped up, hopped up, and ready to rock out!!
Only now, not only do we get to see CLUTCH once or twice a year if you’re lucky enough to see them at a festival, but we get great music told by a master narrator of stories, but we get to have that feeling from our youth jammed into our aging selves that appreciate shows starting at 7 PM, even on weekends! Concerts like CLUTCH are the stuff that good things come from, that good things make, am I right? Hell yes, I am!